(Plenty of Fish) POF Conversations: Drayeds31

I’ve been quiet for a while, had to take some time away from the blog and social media to focus on self care; while I was away I started learning about meditation and shadow work, we’ll talk more about both of those soon. Today I have another Plenty of Fish post for you.


Earlier today I was looking though pictures and screenshots on my phone and I came across another POF conversation that I haven’t shared with you guys yet. I have been thinking for a few days now about how I really need to return to the blog, so it seems like perfect timing to do just that.


This is a message in my Plenty of Fish mailbox from May 2019, you may already know…but in October of last year I gave up dating apps for good.

  • Plenty of Fish conversation, online dating

People say things just like this to me all the time, and like I said in 🚩Each Day is a Special Gift 🚩 I know they mean well, but it’s always so weird and cringe-y when things like this happen.


I am a person; I am just as much of a person as any other human being on this planet, I just have sit down all the time. I don’t know what is so impressive about sitting down…but apparently it is super impressive and inspiring, or at least that is what I (and all other people in wheelchairs) have been told all my/our life. It’s not really like we have any other choice but to deal with it anyway, so why do people say things like that? I mean no one ever asked me would you like to be in a wheelchair…?, like…what’s my other choice…fall over dead? Yeah, I’ll choose wheelchair, thanks.

That’s why I have never understood why dating has to be so hard when you are in a chair, I’m not any different than any other woman out there. I still want all of the same things any able bodied woman would want out of life and relationships, I promise you I am a damn good girlfriend, but most guys are too scared to even give me a chance to find that out, they just see a wheelchair and run away scared.


That’s their loss though, cause I know I am worth it. I don’t lie, I would never even dream of cheating, I’m smart and funny, I love to cook and I am very good at it! I don’t need a man, I can do things on my own; but that doesn’t mean that I don’t want one. I want one so bad that sometimes my heart literally hurts when I think about it.


I think that is a big part of it too, guys assume they’ll have to practically be my babysitter and do things for me all the time…but that isn’t true. As I said I do things on my own, now If you want to do whatever it is that needs done obviously that would be so much easier so go for it, but my stubbornness isn’t going to let me ask you to help.

I never met the guy that sent me this message, honestly I forgot all about him until today. I don’t think I ever talked to him after this message; he wasn’t physically attractive to me, plus like I said getting told things like that are cringe-y…so I let him get lost in the sea of Plenty of Fish messages.

I’m glad I quit Plenty of Fish, and online dating in general, it is so exhausting having to pitch yourself to people over and over again.

I know one day soon the right person will show up, I just have to have patience, like they say good things are worth waiting for.

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